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10 Unstoppable Ways to Develop Self-Confidence

Develop Self-Confidence

Is it true that we get more comfortable in our skin as we get older? Hopefully we do, but many of us look to be more comfortable in our skin right now. While it may feel like everyone else on the planet has more self-confidence than you, many people look to build higher self-esteem, including me. I have worked hard to overcome shyness and I would like to share the list of 10 steps I have taken to develop self-confidence.

  1. Practice and Master a Skill: What do you love to do? Determine whether your interest is photography, basketball, video games … whatever! Figure out what makes you tick and practice it enough to feel very confident in your abilities. Have you ever read about the practice routines professional athletes put themselves through each day to reach and stay at the top of their game? They work very hard. Those stories are a testament to focusing and a mastering a skill. Being a master at something will certainly boost your self-esteem.
  2. Use Power Poses: Do you ever get nervous before a speech, interview or asking someone out? If so, take a few moments to practice these Power Poses beforehand. (And please note, you will feel silly the first few times you try it, but they do work.) Find a secluded spot (bathroom, empty room, etc.) and make your body as large as you can. Stand with your legs shoulder-width apart and either raise your arms above your head and reach for the sky or boldly place your hands on your hips like Wonder Woman. Now hold this position for a few minutes and breathe. Your body chemistry will change and make you feel more powerful. Amy Cuddy, a Harvard Business School social psychologist, speaks that maintaining power poses such as these for a few minutes can cause neuroendocrine and behavioral changes for both males and females. Give it a try!
  3. Smile When You Walk: I had to train myself to do this because I must have a serious look on my face quite frequently when I am walking and concentrating. Even when I was perfectly happy, people would ask me what was wrong, or tell me to smile more. Those statements would aggravate me and make me self-conscious, so I chose to make a change. I am not necessarily advocating that you walk around with a huge grin on your face as it may make people think you are a bit strange, but I noticed that if I made a conscious effort to make a small smile or relax my expression, those comments completely disappeared! That helped me feel less awkward. Trust me, it feels less strange after you have done it a few times and it eventually becomes a habit. 🙂
  4. Make Eye Contact: Now step 3 and step 4 have to go together. If you walk around with a smile on your face, but look at the floor when people walk by, they may get confused and think you are hearing voices. If you LOOK at them with a smile on your face, a very strange thing happens … they usually say Hi! And, even if they don’t, it still leaves an impression of your self-confidence. You may even start saying Hi! yourself!
  5. Master Small Talk: If you are trying to develop self-confidence, mastering small talk is a must. Luckily, it is really not that hard if you just remember that people love to talk about themselves! Ask them something about themselves such as what their job is, about their family / pets, or what do they like to do for fun. Unless they are shy as well, it should get the conversation started. Be prepared to have answers to these questions as well, so that you can participate in the conversation.
  6. Actively Listen: Most people do not “listen” to conversation to actually listen or hear what the other person is saying. Most people listen so they can formulate an answer. That means most are spending less time focused on what the other person is saying and more about what they want to say back. Try to make a conscious effort to truly listen to what the person is saying. This will make it easier for you to speak to them again in the future as you will probably remember something from the conversation…people LOVE that!
  7. Make Healthy Choices: If you are not eating right, not getting enough exercise, enough sleep or are otherwise not making healthy choices, you will not feel confident in your appearance or your health. This will impact your overall confidence level. If you make some time to focus on yourself and make good changes for your body and spirit, your self-confidence will soar!
  8. Define Your Look: Once you feel better about your life choices, putting your look together will be a natural next step. Whether you feel good in casual looks or business attire, try to find clothes and hairstyles that allow you to stand proud. Conversely, if you are worried about your appearance it will shrink your posture and reduce your self-confidence.  I notice this recently when attending a funeral. While the first outfit I chose looked nice on me, it made me wonder if I may draw unwanted attention to myself with its bold pattern. I chose a classic black dress instead and felt more confident the entire day.
  9. Refuse Negative Self-Talk: Do you have a reel of non-stop inner dialogue going about how you don’t look good, or you are not smart enough or whatever? You need to stop. Period. I heard a quote by Dr. Phil once and he said something to the effect of, “People don’t think about you as much as you think they think about you.” That statement has helped me when my inner demons start in. Nobody cares (for very long) what shoes you wear or if your manicure is perfect. Do not let these small details keep you from moving forward. If you are hearing active criticisms frequently from others around you, please see step 10.
  10. Develop a Positive Support Network: We all need support. It may be from family, friends, co-workers or even your social network, but try to find others who can encourage you when you are not feeling confident and cheer you on to grow personally. If you are surrounded by people who criticize you, cut you down or hold you back from being your true self, then your self-esteem will certainly suffer. Please look to remove those relationships from your life so that you can grow in positive ways. If you need help, please seek the assistance of a trusted adult or counselor.

There you go, 10 steps to a better, more confident you! I guarantee that if you put even half of these tips together you will be unstoppable! Go ahead and give these a try. I am sure you will begin to develop self-confidence. I would love to hear your success stories or your own suggestions in the comments below.

Thanks for reading,

-Tracy

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Inspirational Meme About Being Different

Inspirational Meme: Always Be Different - janet & clarence
Inspirational Meme About Being Different - janet & clarence
Inspirational Meme – Always Be Different

This inspirational meme about being different is an image I created to show that we should try to embrace the traits that make us unique. If we try too hard to fit in, there is less that makes us memorable. If we focus on those aspects of life that make us healthy, happy and “special,” it will help us be irreplaceable!

“In order to be irreplaceable, one must always be different.” – Coco Chanel

Do you need help in determining your unique traits? I found and article written by Olakunbi Korostensky,” Discovering And Embracing Your Uniqueness.” She suggested these three questions if you are still in doubt about what is special about you:

  1. Am I aware of how people react to me when I am with them?
  2. When in a crowd, am I more interested in voicing my opinion or do I listen intently to others?
  3. When decisions are made, do I simply go along with the opinions of the majority, or is upholding my values more important to me?

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Motivational Meme About Obstacles

Motivational Meme About Obstacles - janet & clarence
Motivational Meme About Obstacles - janet & clarence
Motivational Meme About Obstacles

This motivational meme about obstacles is an image I created to help those who may be struggling with overcoming a particular obstacle, or for those who want to share this powerful image with others.

“Obstacles are those frightful things you see when you take your eyes off your goal.” – Henry Ford

If overcoming an obstacle is a topic that you would like more information, then  I recommend taking a few minutes to read this great,  in-depth article  “How to Overcome Obstacles and Achieve Your Goals” by Adam Sicinski.

It helps you identify what types of obstacles you may face, questions to ask in order to over come them and many ideas to help you on your journey. It is a great starting point to help you achieve your goals and has a significant list of additional resources listed at the end.

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Inspirational Meme About Courage and Fear

Inspirational Quote About Courage and Fear - janet & clarence
Inspirational Quote About Courage and Fear
Inspirational Quote About Courage and Fear

“Courage doesn’t mean you don’t get afraid. Courage means you don’t let fear stop you.” – Bethany Hamilton.

This an inspirational meme about courage and fear and how to conquer self-doubt. If you are interested in learning about an exercise I use to push past fear, see my post Learn How to Overcome Fear and Self-Doubt.

I would love to hear your comments on this uplifting message below.

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